What i’ve learned after spending thousands of hours in the weeds of other peoples’ lives

I’ve spent thousands of hours listening to podcast episodes and reading autobiographies about “successful” people over the past 10 years.

I’ve always been fascinated by the behind the scenes look into these people.

It started with entrepreneurs and business leaders. I remember being in my early twenties and listening and reading about these people. I thought, “If they can do it, so can I.” And I truly believed it. Something about listening to their words—I could feel their humanness beyond their fame, wealth, accolades and success. I felt this connection or empathy to each person I learned about.

I attribute many of the decisions I’ve made in carving my own path to these thousands of hours in the weeds of other peoples’ lives.

But it wasn’t until recently that I would attribute it to my decision to become a coach.

I am fascinated by people and believe that each of us are so complex. These complexities can be our superpowers and guide us to alignment, but only if we take the time to make sense of them.

And that’s where my role comes in. It’s my job to ask the right questions and hold up a mirror for people to see into themselves.

This is not easy. It takes a lot of courage and vulnerability to look into that mirror and see yourself—the light and the dark, all of you.

But what happens afterwards can be incredible.

We can imagine our complexities as coloured balls in our heads that are mixed together. When we do the inner work the balls begin to align. Things that never made sense start to make sense. You develop the self awareness to move through life your way, not based upon other peoples’ expectations or social norms.

The more successful you become, the harder it becomes to be vulnerable. As in, to speak openly about what’s going on in your head, the things you’re struggling with, the things holding you back, the reasons you feel unfulfilled or unhappy.

It’s hard because there is this shared misconception that successful people have their sh*t together. They are different from everyone else, they don’t struggle with the same things, etc.

I’ll let you in on a little secret: successful people experience impostor syndrome and self-doubt. Successful people seek validation and approval. And, successful people deal with unprocessed trauma just like everyone else. The difference is successful people don’t let that stop them; they carry forward despite all the noise in their heads. Successful people have teams around them supporting them in overcoming their challenges—therapists, mentors and coaches.

I believe we are all more capable than what we give ourselves credit for. But we can’t step into our true potential—on our aligned path—without making sense of what’s in our heads.

I’m so grateful that I started to do the inner work when I did because it put me on my own path.

One of the biggest reasons why I left my corporate job at the peak of my young career was because I wanted to wake up everyday doing something I loved.

I’m starting to get clarity on what that is!

I want to support high-achieving people. I want to provide a safe space for individuals to sort through the complexities by asking powerful questions so they can see themselves fully, and make sense of what’s holding them back from stepping into their power and acting in alignment with their highest self.

We’ve all heard that we can be and do whatever it is we dream of. But I’ll add that nobody gets there on their own. They lean on people for support along the way.

chat soon!

Sylvana